I was listening to a talk show on the radio and the presenter was saying that his wife had assumed that it was okay to drive his brand new car for the day and it was not even up for discussion. She just did it. He was saying it was hard for him to let her do that and the female population promptly called up the show and shamed him for being so selfish.
I have to say that I too, do not like sharing certain things. For one, I don’t understand how there are couples out there who share a toothbrush. I won’t even share a towel with my partner – I find it somehow a huge breach in personal space and hygiene. I also like my own bathroom, sink, toothpaste, books, digital toys… okay. Maybe I don’t like sharing. I guess I’m so used to having my own things because I’ve been doing things myself for so long that it’s hard to get out of it.
Anyway. Back to the presenter and his wife. I don’t think I would even dream of driving my hypothetical husband’s car. For one, he probably sees it as his second wife, if not his first. And for two, I do not want to be held responsible for any possible damage that I may cause should I choose to drive it. I may want to drive it a little for a taste of it, but certainly not without him and I wouldn’t even be upset if he said no. Totally understandable. It’s his baby he bought it he wants it for himself.
In return, don’t expect me to lend you my toothbrush.
When people get something new, something they have worked hard to have, it is perfectly understandable to want to keep it to yourself. A day comes when sharing is not a big deal, but for awhile, we like to enjoy the newness of it all. I think the women who called were wrong and the truth is, if they had been in his place, more then likely would have felt the same way.